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book recs, quotations, tweets, & miscellanea

Despy Boutris
Mar 18
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Happy Friday!

Here’s what I have for you today:

  • Housekeeping

  • What I’m reading

  • Quotations

  • Tweets


Housekeeping:

As always, if you live in the US, you can purchase 5 lightly used books for $30 on my website. It’s an affordable way to encounter new literature, and it helps support my Thai food takeout habit!

I’ll typically throw in a free lil zine or some stickers, too.

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What I read this week:

  • Ozempic gossip will destroy our brains

  • This Megan Snowe book

To read:

  • A Body of One’s Own

  • The End of the English Major

  • Running a big publishing house is not as much fun as it used to be

  • Let the Body Testify

  • The Human-Built World Is Not Built For Humans

  • 8 Novels About Complicated Queer Relationships

  • I Never Made a Living Wage When I Worked in Publishing

  • 9 Must-Reads for Lovers (and Haters) of The Last of Us

  • A Psalm for the Living Artist

  • Artists Consider the Concept of Care

  • All the best albums of 2023 so far

  • Sorry, Bros, You Need Feminine Skills to Survive the Apocalypse

  • What TikTok’s confessional GRWM videos say about our culture of oversharing

  • Embracing Queer Anger as a Source of Knowledge


Quotations:

Every person who lives in a fat-hating culture inevitably absorbs anti-fat beliefs, assumptions, and stereotypes, and also inevitably comes to occupy a position in relation to power arrangements that are based on weight. None of us can ever hope to be completely free of such training or completely disentangled from the power grid.

-Marilyn Wann, The Fat Studies Reader


Famous people, though, can never be relatable where body image is concerned because they have inordinate money, resources, time, and incentive to manipulate their bodies. Stop going to the well of celebrity for any kind of guidance on how to feel about your own body. There’s no water there.

It is madness to take celebrity body change personally. There is no sense in having positive or negative feelings about their bodies, even if they never change, because their motivations, abilities, and agendas — as well as the implications of their actions — exist on an entirely different plane of reality.

-Mikala Jamison


I'm under no illusion that I'm going to save publishing or anything, but I am really confident that more people starting indie presses can potentially make a difference. It can provide other avenues for different kinds of books that maybe, like mine, weren't anticipated to be number one best sellers, but have kind of a cult following or a certain level of readership. I feel like people really are hungry for more things that are operating outside of traditional publishing structures.

-Chelsea Hodson


Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously.

-Prentis Hemphill


Artist is a sensibility. It’s a way of seeing, doing, feeling, reckoning, connecting. Being a sensibility, artistry is distinct from commerce. Though it can be capitalized upon, it cannot be measured by, say, books sold or dollars earned. For these reasons, an artist need not be economically viable. An artist need not be recognized in their time. An artist need not be successful, or even not fail. They need only to be encountered.

-David Davis


I don’t make political art. I don’t make feminist art. I’m a woman who’s a feminist. I don’t make women’s art. I think those categories marginalize anyone’s work. I’m engaged with ideas of power and picturing, of pleasure and punishment, of lives and their beginnings and ends, and how, amid moments of pleasure and tenderness, there are explosions of destruction, subjugation, and the insanity of war.

-Barbara Kruger


Capitalism thrives on fetishizing individualism and deluding us into believing it’s possible to be a singular, inimitable constellation of interests and sensations.

-Sof Sears


what I mean is: sky’s frighted with false stars, adidas

across powerlines

-Kevin Varrone


The ice in her water pinks with sunset. The coral-blue

of the glass in uncertain light. Everything is dying

all the time.

-Andrew Kozma


Just after being caught, the dull knife

scattering jewels over the bloodstained wood. Skin slides off

as easily as clothing, under an expert hand. The raw sex of it.

-Andrew Kozma


O Hovering Mother, O Abandonment . . .

-Andrew Kozma


My head tries, but it can’t make enough noise

to drown out the noise.

-Andrew Kozma


How my instincts have raged erotic!

-Andrew Kozma


This ramshackle home I call my body

won’t let me leave.

-Andrew Kozma


When I left that town

I left for good.

-Jackson Holbert, “For Andrew”


Some evenings I shook like ice cubes in a warm glass of dark roast tea.

-Lizz Dawson


Tweets:

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Despy Boutris @itsdbouts
lately i've been trying to rate books by how successful they are at accomplishing what they set out to do vs. how much i personally "liked" them. it's been a very fun exercise actually
7:45 PM ∙ Mar 10, 2023
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Despy Boutris @itsdbouts
remember when michael douglas told the press that he got throat cancer from eating too much pussy? what a time to be alive that was. iconic, truly
11:41 PM ∙ Mar 17, 2023
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Kris Wernowsky @kriswernowsky
@chrislhayes The libertarian house cat comparison still batting 1.000
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4:43 AM ∙ Mar 13, 2023
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nat @natzattack
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6:57 PM ∙ Mar 2, 2023
33,456Likes9,172Retweets
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MIMI ZIMA @MIMI_ZIMA
Timeless image, hard as fuck, gay men today could learn many things, etc.
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7:16 PM ∙ Mar 4, 2023
108,770Likes11,803Retweets
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Despy Boutris @itsdbouts
trying to embrace the queer art of failure but it’s rly hard
4:44 PM ∙ Mar 9, 2023
30Likes3Retweets
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Dígame Concejal @RSGAT
Everyone with student loan debt right now:
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2:34 PM ∙ Mar 13, 2023
82,358Likes12,891Retweets
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Zillow Gone Wild 🏡 @zillowgonewild
Don’t think we’ve ever seen a main bedroom suite this perfect before
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4:04 PM ∙ Mar 15, 2023
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Despy Boutris @itsdbouts
GIRL FINALLY SHARES HER TRUTH: im not fucking anyone who’s first tinder photo is of them rockclimbing
7:43 AM ∙ Mar 13, 2023
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LikeTheStatue @k8bushofficial
anyway i am dismayed by gay people and people working in the sex industry who have carceral mindsets about what secret thoughts get people aroused. grow up
2:52 PM ∙ Mar 13, 2023
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out of context new girl @nonewgirlcontxt
you have to be a whole other level of gay and religiously traumatized to recognize this location
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1:12 PM ∙ Mar 8, 2023
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bl**ne @alphatransfag
i will never forget when i hooked up w/ my manager in hs (lmao), he invited me over with the pretense of helping “make him a quilt out of his old t shirts” and when i got there there weren’t even any old t shirts, he just started tickling me and then we had sex
4:46 PM ∙ Mar 9, 2023
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Despy Boutris @itsdbouts
grateful to have four collages out in the newest issue of @KALEIDOSCOPEDM1 💖 read their full issue here: bit.ly/3Yzy1si
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8:12 PM ∙ Mar 9, 2023
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& before I go, a question for you:

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Despy Boutris @itsdbouts
hi. best queer lit you read this year? tell me, tell me!
5:42 AM ∙ Mar 10, 2023
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Finally:

Look at my perfect cat.

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Have a great weekend—

-Despy Boutris
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